Everyone, even the so called perfectionists admits (if they’re normal that is) their incapacity to be perfect. They all face marriage problems too, The irony, however is that couples more often than not fail to give their partners the same break they give themselves. It is not uncommon to find yourself getting impatient at the mistakes of your partner, being irritated and churning criticism like confetti.
Face it, the love your life is human just as you are and they have the capacity to charm, tickle and love you as well as irritate and annoy you, with the same measure. This is not to say that you should not get into a relationship with some form of expectations. However, care has to be taken so that your expectations are so lofty and unrealistic that they are bound to lead to disappointment.
You will Change them
In most cases life will demand that you make do with what you get if you fail to get what you want. This is not an encouragement to remain in a relationship when all the signs indicate that it is not bound to be fruitful. Instead it is a wake-up call to the realization that that you may have to readjust your expectations especially if they are too high. Try discovering from within if it is possible to live with the short-comings of your spouse. The other alternative is to change yourself with the hope that they will follow suit, but there lies no guarantee.
What to do
Insisting that the other person sees things your way will only take you so far. As human as it is to always want to have your way, problems arise when you lose sight of the point and soon it becomes about being right. Chances are that your partner will not think like you in making decisions. The trick is to look from within whenever problems arise in the relationship instead of pointing an accusing finger all the time.
What not to do
Discovering early not to take everything your partner does personally will save you a whole lot of heart ache and head ache. This is the part where you climb down from your high horse of self-importance and realize that maybe the, not so wonderful, actions of your partner have nothing to do with you. Additionally, don’t assume that you partner can read your mind. Many are the time couples will get upset at each other and disappointed when it turns out that they have no idea about whatever it is that you expect them to automatically know.